Mija shares why she must visit her in-laws first during holidays: "If I go to my parents' house, my mother scolds me"

Broadcaster Mija shared the reasons why she must visit her in-laws first during holiday periods and shared anecdotes from her past life living with her in-laws. According to a video on the YouTube channel 'Dongchimi', Mija explained the holiday scenes she experienced while living with her mother-in-law during her early marriage.

"Working is liberation" The days of balancing home shopping broadcasts and holiday labor

Mija recalled her holiday routine from her time working as a home shopping show host. At that time, Mija volunteered to host the first broadcast at 6:00 AM on the day before the holiday, and after the broadcast ended at 7:00 AM, she would move to her in-laws' house to perform holiday chores together. Afterward, she had to handle a schedule of performing ancestral rites the next morning, welcoming guests, and then moving again for a midnight broadcast. Mija stated that since she was living at her in-laws' house at the time, going out to work actually provided a sense of liberation.

Mija mentioned that her mother-in-law would continuously prepare food while waiting for her daughters. She confessed that even after the ancestral rites were performed, if her mother-in-law called other children to help prepare food, she couldn't leave immediately even if she wanted to go to her parents' house because she had to read the room. Mija explained the situation where she continued doing dishes and food preparation while being mindful of the atmosphere as the in-laws gathered.

"Wipe the bowls before you go" The rules of holidays revealed by the mother-in-law

The mother-in-law appearing in the video expressed her stance regarding the role of a daughter-in-law during holidays, stating, "You must wipe the bowls before you go." The mother-in-law emphasized that after the ancestral rites, the dishes must be cleaned thoroughly and wiped with a dry cloth to prevent stains, expressing the opinion that it is good for the daughter-in-law to finish this before leaving. She also recalled that in the past, the amount of food prepared for ancestral rites was so large that if dozens of guests came, the food would run out.

The mother-in-law also mentioned the recently changed holiday landscape. She explained that while ancestral rites were performed multiple times in the past, the current trend is to perform them only during holidays or to reduce the scale of the rites. In particular, she added that for the past three years, they have been spending holidays by having the son's family and the daughter's family visit alternately, which makes her feel at ease. The mother-in-law also advised adjusting through her husband (son) so that conflicts do not arise regarding ancestral rites.

Difference in stance between daughter-in-law and mother-in-law regarding the timing of visiting parents' house

Mija said that even if she wants to visit her parents' house first during the holidays, she ends up visiting her in-laws first because her mother wants her to visit the in-laws first. She offered the experiential opinion that if she visits the in-laws first, visiting her parents' house feels psychologically less burdensome, but conversely, if she visits her parents' house first, visiting the in-laws can become burdensome.

Mija mentioned an anecdote from the past during her mother-in-law's birthday, where her father-in-law had undergone surgery, and she moved to her parents' house and could not be reached, which made her mother-in-law angry. Mija explained the situation where she failed to follow the principle of staying overnight with her mother-in-law and moved to her parents' house, conveying the importance of the timing of visits and communication during holidays or family events.