Sunwoo Madam, marital conflicts caused by husband's frequent drinking sessions and tone of voice (Dongchimi)

The cast members of the variety program 'Dongchimi' talked about the communication styles between married couples and the patterns of conflict arising from them. The participants in the video explained with specific examples how different conversation habits lead to fights or dissatisfaction.

"I get angry because of the tone" Conflict caused by a wife's commanding way of speaking

One of the participants revealed that marital fights occur because of the wife's way of speaking. The participant cited the fact that the wife speaks in a commanding tone instead of making requests as the cause of the conflict. They stated that they also get angry when the wife makes demands such as "Won't you open the window?" or "Won't you run the vacuum cleaner?". They mentioned the importance of conversation methods, saying they would not have been angry if she had requested softly, such as "Can you open the window?" or "We're out of tissue, can you do it?".

"Husband who comes home late after drinking" Repeated problems and coping methods

A case of worrying about a husband's frequent drinking sessions was also shared. One participant mentioned that her husband used to go out to drink 3 to 4 days a week in the past, and said she has attempted to have conversations regarding the situation where the husband drinks and comes home late. The husband says he is sorry every time and promises to improve, but the situation continues where the same thing repeats a few days later. In this process, the participant explained that as the husband's behavior repeated, she became exhausted from the conversation and ended up keeping her dissatisfaction to herself instead of expressing it.

In relation to this, the participants shared their respective experiences regarding how to resolve conflicts between couples. One participant shared an experience of showing a firm attitude regarding the husband drinking and coming home late, saying, "We broke up once, but I can't do it a second time," while another participant said they are continuing conversations to solve problems arising from the husband liking people.

The conversation and atmosphere of a couple mediated by children

The appearance of children stepping in as mediators in marital conflict situations was also depicted. It was mentioned that when the atmosphere between a couple becomes stiff due to the wife's aggressive tone, a daughter appears to point out the mother's tone or soothe the father, shifting the atmosphere. The participants conveyed situations where children recognize and react to problems caused by the wife's tone being blunt or her voice being loud.